When facing unemployment due to a layoff it is easy to give blame on something else. Issues beyond our control cause us to lose employment. But this causes us to lose focus on what needs to be done to take the next step.
Unemployment can also cause stress in life. Because there are factors beyond our control we can shift these factors as targets for blame. But this only causes distraction from moving forward.
People and situations are easy scapegoats to blame for your stress overload, but blaming others rarely solves anything and tends to make you even more stressed.
A Better Option
What can responsibility do for you? It helps you decide what course of action to take for your own happiness and find a way to relieve your stress.
Unemployment can case stress in life. All symptoms of stress, including anger, rapid heartbeat, mental shutdown and fatigue are direct responses from dealing with stress. The loss of income and uncertainty can be frustrating, but you can choose how to deal with it.
Research has shown that how we perceive situations and people dictates how we respond to stress. For example with the current situation with the Coronavirus, people who stay at home may have a significant other who you believe is driving you insane or children who you sometimes think will be your downfall.
It becomes a game of blaming circumstances or people for things that go wrong in your life. When you face the prospect of not being able to work the littlest things can upset you. It may be that your spouse makes your life miserable with his/her annoying habits.
How You Respond
You have to think about how you can respond to circumstances in life that would not cause so much stress. One easy way that people try to respond is to blame things they have no control over.
This blaming is a type of helplessness that happens when you don’t take responsibility for how your life is. The problem is that blaming does not help the individual move forward. Blaming people or circumstance won’t help. The problems will not go away and in fact another one always appears to make things worse.
Real change happens when you become accountable to yourself. Making yourself accountable for negative and stressful situations in your life can help reduce stress. The practice of accountability shifts the power that stress has over you by giving you back the power. With this you can make choices that create change and move forward.
Blaming others or situations for your stress only creates a fog of confusion and doubt. When you are accountable you can make affirmations in life that can help to see what you’re feeling more clearly.
You create some distance from yourself and a stressful situation. With this you can focus your mind on the real reasons why things are wrong in your life. You get a clear overall picture of the true situation and what needs to be done about it.
One way to do this is not to watch news or media. These mediums thrive on negative information to create sensationalism. This causes people to develop opinions that may or may not be true.
There may also be toxic individuals in life. These individuals can fill your head with their own thoughts to influence your judgement.
When you allow yourself a degree of separation it gives you the insight to know how to deal situations. You can understand what the situations and problems and the causes in your life.
For example look at the loss of money with unemployment. We may or may not take for granted the money we have from our employment. Some people may live comfortably or paycheck to paycheck.
How people react can vary. Some people will panic not knowing what to do with a loss of income. Others will think clearly looking at resources they have and how to budget their money.
When you have a clear mind you can rectify the situation or the problem you may have to find solutions. You may not be able to fix things immediately with this insight, but you may be able to work to make improvement.
As the Coronavirus has increased the need for businesses to close thousands face unemployment. If faced with long term unemployment, this can lead to chronic stress.
Chronic stress in your life means that you haven’t addressed the problems with a plan to relieve them. Think about your role in the situation and how you can change yourself. This creates a foundation for growth.
Some things just can’t be changed. For example, finding work in an occupation you were employed in. Maybe the business is closed and cannot reopen or there is a lack of opportunities in that field. It is time to make a plan for yourself on how you can make a pivot in your career.
There are so many things in life we cannot change. What we can change is ourselves. Recognize this when you’re participating in the stress blame game and begin to take accountability. This will help ease some of the stress in your life.
It is true that when being out of work because of a layoff is something out of our ability to control. But too make a change for the better it is important to move beyond this. Blaming only keeps us in a rut we cannot get out of.